There probably isn’t a less understood dynamic in our community than that between intimate partners. Black couples are especially vulnerable. In this perfect storm of unstable roles caused by devastating economic losses, poor communication and conflicting role expectations, Black relationships are being turned upside down.
Many couples struggle because of a lack of skills, but not a lack of will. My goal is to empower you to listen to your partner for the keys to understanding him or her, discover “love languages”, make peace with the past, get over the pain and to develop the skills needed to create Win/Win outcomes that will help you and your partner live your happily ever after.
Whether you just heard, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you,” or trying to rebuild trust after an affair, need to replace distance with closeness, need to forgive (or be forgiven), or are trying to avoid separation or stop a divorce, I help black couples develop the skills to hear (and be heard), resolve conflicts in a “win/win’ vs a “win/lose” fashion, and become fluent in and speak each other’s “love language”, so that you can try and make peace with the past and get past the pain.
As your therapist, I will not be a referee and I will not judge right and wrong. I will analyze the mechanics of your relationship to determine what works well and what needs changing. With your consistent participation, openness to change and willingness to learn, you will develop tools to feed your relationship and manage the inevitable challenges that all couples experience.
Getting along in relationships is not a matter of being on good behavior. It is instead learning how to listen to your partner for the keys to understanding him or her. It is learning to understand yourself and being secure enough to present your needs while working on your flaws. It is understanding that marriage is a journey, not a competition or race. Many black couples struggle because of a lack of skills, but not a lack of will. My goal is to empower you to develop the skills needed to create Win/Win outcomes that will help you and your partner to live your happily ever after.
Couples seek marriage counseling to improve a troubled relationship. You can use marriage counseling to help with many specific issues, including:
I provide virtual coaching and counseling for residents of Dallas, Houston, and their surrounding areas.